Trophy Wife THE BAND

nightswimming

2011-12-19T12:57:00.003-05:00

hi

not every girl is a riot girl

interview with the lovely anders from battle helm

scorpios + solidarity = show saturday

2011-11-15T07:52:00.006-05:00

We are playing a show on Saturday November 19 and it is a partial benefit for the Colima Community in El Salvador!

The Mitten • 49th and Kingsessing in West Philly • 8pm for realz • with Des Ark, Lovers, Bore War and Trophy Wife.

For more information about the show or about the benefit, email me at trophywifetheband(at)gmail.com.

Here is some information from Emily, a friend of mine who has been working with this community of strong and inspiring women in El Salvador for a long time:

As many of you may or may not have heard/seen (esp. since it has received very little U.S. coverage), last month, Nicaragua and El Salvador have been blasted by hurricanes, flooding and tropical storms. The rain was catastrophic: flooding, landslides, immense damage to roads, homes, and bridges, leaving tens of thousands displaced. Nearly 70% of this year’s crops across the country were washed away. Many scientists have commented that because of its geographic position, El Salvador is currently receiving the full force of climate change effects that will also shortly be seen and experienced by many of us elsewhere.

Further, since Colima lies directly on the banks of the Acelhuate River, it has been particularly devastated by these recent inundations. This particular river was completely reshaped some thirty years ago by the introduction of massive hydroelectric dams along its route (whose power-production is aimed not at residents but heavily polluting export industries) that have left the marginalized communities on its banks as the victims of intense toxic contamination/exposure and frequent wash-outs.

This follows on the heels of disastrous flooding which occurred only a little over year ago, that likewise wiped out the crops and harvests of nearly 3/4s of Colima’s residents. In both cases, it should be understood that this represents a loss of not only whatever self-produced food security folks might have access to, but also all hope of future income from labor in harvesting or working the fields of some of the larger local landplots. In other words, it means the crippling loss for poor families of an already barely survivable nutritive and economic base simultaneously.

Two women, Noemy and Morena, are the single openly queer couple in Colima. Further, the neighborhood they live in, Los Potreritos, is made up almost entirely of households headed by single women with children. Two companions and I here in the U.S. have been generally trying across the year to provide emergency support as able, but the scale of the current disaster requires a much larger community effort. What little resources myself and others have been able to send Colima’s way in this past set of days has been immediately redistributed in the form of food, water and basic necessities throughout the entire neighborhood and then further afield. The women in this neighborhood (and Noemy and Morena in particular) are a source of constant inspiration for me in terms of their capacity for self-organization, collective caretaking and the ability to make very few materials make a very significant impact. In these current hours, the necessity for just that simply couldn’t be higher.

Most of you [reading] this are yourselves members of variously queer, poor and marginalized communities here in the United States, and as such, many of us are intimately familiar with the struggle, gift and necessity of forging alternative family and support structures in those moments when neither the state nor other institutions either can (or can be bothered to) provide access points to basic survival needs. Increments of $5,$10,$25,$50 will make a huge difference right now in terms of helping folks there in Colima to make it through this acute stage until the waters recede.

I am all too aware in writing this that there are hundreds, even thousands, of acute situations going on throughout the world that likewise would benefit from our attentions – many of them occurring mere feet away from our doorsteps, if not within our own households. However, to that reality I can only respond that we have to, as always, practice the solidarity of which we are capable where and as and whenever we are able.

If you can donate, in whatever increment, please do. You can either mail it to me or drop it off (at 5001 Chester Ave #1R, Philadelphia, PA 19143) or donate online via paypal by clicking here: donate. In every case, whatever comes in I will just bundle together and send via Western Union in their directions. In the words of Noemy and Morena: “Please give our greetings to your friends and family on the part of all the people here in Colima. Many hugs and kisses. Take good care. Con carino.”

And please accept not only their greetings, but also my own. As so many are shouting right now from the various corners across the globe, “Another world is not only possible, it is necessary.” Here’s to all the many creative, difficult, various, tendrilled and amazing ways in which we shall also necessarily have to build it.

doylestown newspaper

2011-11-10T15:19:00.001-05:00

interview.review from recent show in doylestown

birthdays

2011-11-07T11:36:00.003-05:00

so my birthday is coming up. and it made me think of this thing i wrote for someone on their 33rd birthday. thought id share.

33 you are
woman child cub
like the record
33 times around
like the music
to make sound
fingertips feel 33 years
of raw life
a year as a record
of an event
of fall winter
spring summer
one time around
oh how much sound
explodes into the air
into open arms yet
sometimes on deaf ears
so it bounces back hard
hurts but reminds
you of you
save some sound for you
as a salve
on tired bursting heart
and cracked worn fingers
mother to sound and thought
painful delirious birth
33 times around
sing your desire
for then you will
sing your life
fully wholly in its possibility

recent show

2011-10-24T10:49:00.005-04:00

we had a chance to play at ras cafe in DC a few weeks back as part of Uptown Friday Nights with the amazing DC band Laughing Man and incredible spoken word artist natalie illum. It was a benefit for Life Pieces to Masterpieces.

a new dc friend of ours captured a video of one of our new songs which will be on our next record to be coming out in the near future. check that here.

thanks a million to art under pressure for helping work with us on the show. if you need music, clothing, skateboarding stuff, custom graphics, art supplies and you are anywhere near washington, dc, go there.

john cage- how to get started

2011-09-25T12:44:00.003-04:00

I did a project modeled after John Cage's "How to Get Started" piece about our band. I chose ten words to describe my collaborative creative process and relationship with Diane. Discussion on those themes is layered on top of each other, as Cage did, on the subject of how one gets started in the creative process. I wanted to share it here.
-ko

new record

2011-09-02T10:30:00.007-04:00

so my band is going to the studio this weekend to make our second record. well, we're starting the process. at this moment, im feeling the weight of expectations, for which im totally responsible... but it also does come from hoping we make something exciting, relevant and interesting, something that contributes to cultural creation in general but also to culture in the context of social change.

for me, recording is exciting and cathartic. at the end there will be this tangible object- thoughts, emotions and heart embodied in something that i can hold in my hands. but the birthing process is demanding and intense and in the middle of it i wonder if its all worth it. for katy and i, our songs are very wrapped up in our separate and mutual emotional, physical and mental struggles so that while recording, there is a reliving of all the shit we've navigated by writing these songs; its impossible not to unearth some of what we have buried in them. there is also this desire to have one of the more permanent manifestations of all that struggle and intensity and growth be what you want it to be, to sound like you want it to. to be a good representation of where and what it comes from. i guess thats why we named the record sing what scares you.

quakes

2011-08-24T11:59:00.003-04:00

a dear friend shared this article with me post-earthquake yesterday.

What Coverage of the Earthquake can teach us about the LGBT Movement by Reverend Emily Martin, from Mineral, VA

trophy wife teeshirts

2011-08-22T15:47:00.004-04:00

buy our shirts and hoodies online! tees are 10 bucks and 15-20 for a hoodie plus a few extra for shipping. get in touch if you are interested. i also could probably make you something with custom color/size if you wanted.

trophywifetheband(at)gmail.com

active, apparent, clear, live, manifest, obvious, open, public

2011-07-08T10:09:00.002-04:00

we will combat latent inequality together tonight in dc at c.l.i.t. fest.

article in washington city paper here

st stephens 1525 newton street nw 6pm

euro tour

2011-05-02T15:25:00.003-04:00

we leave on sunday the 8th! in less than 1 week. check here for more info! http://lamoustache.org/booking-trophy-wife-may-june/

10.05. Amsterdam (NL) – OT301
11.05. Utrecht (NL) – dB’s (w/ Wooden Horse Toy)
12.05. Köln (D) – Tsunami Club (w/ Soldout)
13.05. NEED HELP!
14.05. Malmö (S) – Rex
15.05. Lund (S) – Hemgården (w/ Young Animal Presents)
16.05. NEED HELP!
17.05. Aalborg (DK) – 1000 Fryd (w/ Witches)
18.05. Hamburg (D) – Rote Flora
19.05. Potsdam (D) – Black Fleck (w/ Sissters)
20.05. Berlin (D) – Bei Roy (w/ Ex Best Friends)
21.05. Leipzig (D) – Ladyfest @ Zoro
22.05. Chemnitz (D) – Oberstübchen
23.05. Linz (A) – Stadtwerkstatt
25.05. Tabor (CZ) – Musik Club Orion
26.05. Würzburg (D) – Cairo (w/ Parts & Labor)
27.05. Nürnberg (D) – K4 (w/ Forgetters, Witches)
28.05. Darmstadt (D) – Oetinger Villa (w/ Grand Griffon + Caleya + Cannon For Cordoba)
29.05. München (D) – Kafe Kult
30.05. Zürich (CH) – Binz Squat
31.05. Lyon (F) – Sonic (w/ Kellies)
01.06. Winterthur (CH) – GGS31
02.06. Basel (CH) – Villa Rosenau
03.06. Dijon (F) – Les Tanneries
04.06. Milano (I) – Villa Vegan
05.06. NEED HELP!
06.06. NEED HELP!
07.06. Toulouse (F) – La Dynamo (w/ hooker)
08.06. Le Mans (F) – Le 80
09.06. Strasbourg (F) – Mudd Club
10.06. Nancy (F) – SoapBoxClub
11.06. Göttingen – Antifee Festival

video from recent shows

2011-02-24T14:22:00.003-05:00

this is a new song: the gunpowder is at your house.

Brooklyn DIY: Trophy Wife 2.19.11

this is a new song: dead composers dance alone.

(((unartig))): Trophy Wife 1.22.11

lyrics

2011-01-25T13:42:00.001-05:00

lyrics to the songs on our record are now posted at the bottom of the page, just fyi.

Shoooows

2011-01-21T10:56:00.004-05:00

tonight!
friday january 21
cake shop (lower east side NYC)
w/ tournament, universal order of armageddon
8pm

sunday january 23
barbary (phila)
w/ northernmost, universal order of armageddon
7pm

thursday january 27
starlight ballroom (phila)
w/ cymbals eat guitars, dismemberment plan
8pm

new interview at philly city paper HERE

first there, it proves to still be here.
distant as seen, it comes then to be near.
i found it here and there unclear.

what if my hand had only been
extension of an outside reaching in
to work with common means to change me then?

all things are matter, yet these seem
caught in the impatience of a dream,
locked in the awkwardness they mean.

robert creeley- the tools
(thanks bethany)

local show added

2010-12-12T13:01:00.002-05:00

we're playing a philadelphia show before heading off on tour.

december 14. germ books. frankford and norris, fishtown. slutever. cat vet. trophy wife. shows at 8pm.

one day

2010-12-07T11:26:00.003-05:00

have you heard about the controversy in dc over the david wojnarowicz video? please look it up, if not.

and then look at this work he did.

maybe if people looked at this, they'd understand where the hell he is coming from and be outraged by the removal of his video from the smithsonian if they unfortunately weren't already.

resist psychic death

2010-12-06T11:21:00.005-05:00

i think we just played one of my favorite shows ever. i feel so lucky that we were asked to participate. it was a benefit for the organization Support NY. Don't know em? CHECK THEM OUT please here. We played with lots of really rad folks and the space felt very special. thanks to the peeps that came out and to the manifesta loft and to support new york. so much love...

we are going on tour next week. Details of all the shows will be up soon.

also katy and i are really honored to have been asked to play a few reunion shows happening in January. First we'll be doing two shows with Universal Order of Armageddon in New York and Philly.
January 21 • Cake Shop
January 23 • the Barbary

Then on January 27 we are playing with Dismemberment Plan here in Philly! At the starlight ballroom. I think my mom is coming to the show. it'll be the first time she has seen my band. it means a lot to me that she will be there. especially since the first time she heard my band she started cracking up and never asked to listen again! hope i make you proud maman.

for my friend

2010-12-01T11:21:00.002-05:00

my hands trace the lines of your body
full of (life) skin heavily revealed
curved pencil lines reproduce
your arms your back your chest your thighs
with each body part that awakens
my heart beats a little faster, races
and one more year of pain and desperation
becomes my history
this drawing makes me forget
the bones and points of the girls on stage
who i saw break your heart

sing what scares you
draw what heals you

sing out and go bravely forward

2010-10-01T10:10:00.007-04:00

so it turns out i like using this page more than myspace. is it just me or is myspace kind of confusing to use? not sure if people look at this. but thought id write a little note anyway.

we are playing two shows this month (october); check out the upcoming shows section to the right. then we'll be taking november off to write more new songs! we'll be playing one of the new ones this weekend at the show at the marvelous. im pretty excited about it. its called "the gunpowder is at your house". we also will be playing an alternate version of our song cat and dog in memory of Tyler Clementi, the young gay man from Rutgers University, who committed suicide shortly after a video of him in bed with another person was streamed by his roommate over the internet. cat and dog was written when i came out; i was struggling to understand how my sexuality could actually affect the way people felt about me. we dont play it quite as much any more but with some new words in the verses, it feels very relevant to the times.

it was not for you, not for you, not for you. it was not for you, not for you, not for you.

welp drop a line if you ever want to get in touch. our email address is trophywifetheband@gmail.com

also we have a new record that we put out on 307 knox records. it is HERE.

also some folks have written some nice things about our new record. it feels really amazing to know that people have listened to it and are excited about what katy and i are doing. so for people who have supported our band, written about it, come to shows, bought a record or shirt, thank you. xoxo

here are some:

Sadie Magazine
Low Camp Books and Records
Star Beat Music
Korrupt Yr Self

update!

2010-08-24T13:41:00.000-04:00

we are back from tour but playing a few shows this weekend!

THURSDAY: we are playing at the baltimore indy music and arts fest at the windup space. 12 w north street b'more, md

FRIDAY: we are playing a lunchtime performance at willie mae rock camp for girls in NYC

FRIDAY NIGHT: show w/ the feverfew and sparta philharmonic at Wildflower cafe in Bethlehem, PA

ps on my bikeride to work i pass a mural in west philly that says, "i am large. i contain multitudes" for realz.

my space

2010-03-04T10:56:00.002-05:00

we now have a my space page

myspace.com/trophywifeisguts

we'll be putting up tracks from our record up soon. yay.

tw review

2009-12-07T10:25:00.001-05:00

check out this review of our tape!

http://www.heathenharvest.com/article.php?story=20091129012848899

transitions

2009-11-14T22:58:00.002-05:00

i am moving. we are recording.

we are playing a show on my birthday.

11.21 saturday

thank god (south carolina punctuation)
pygmy lush (sterling soul)
trophy wife (dc to the nc guts)

st stephens • 1525 newton st nw dc • $5 • 8pm

cool photos

2009-09-15T12:33:00.002-04:00

here are some photos that were taken at the nakatomi plaza show we played in brooklyn this past weekend.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/futurebreed/collections/72157622371175442/

2009-09-15T12:29:00.001-04:00

October 2: with Caves Caverns, Bermuda Triangle and i need sleep • last show at the Lighthouse, 1421 buchanan st nw, dc • 7pm • $5

2009-07-24T13:58:00.001-04:00

tw interview:

rupaul vs. joan of arc

2009-06-25T10:06:00.000-04:00

tw t shirts!

2009-06-01T11:51:00.009-04:00

cant draw a map with honey
aka summer tour!

trophy wife will be going on a bit of trip with friends curtains of night, the heavy metal thunderclouds from north carolina

friday, june 26th washington, dc
KO's Birthday Bash, a benefit for DASH
w/ totally stoked (ireland), ended (ireland), voyage in coma (dc)
@ st. stephens church • 1525 newton st nw

saturday, june 27th bethlehem, pa
w/ we are skeletons
@ secret art space

sunday, june 28th new brunswick, nj
w/ R.S.O. and Screaming Females
@ meat town USA

monday, june 29th brooklyn
w/ mortals
@ the charleston • 174 bedford avenue

tuesday june 30 wilkinsburg, pa
w/ drug dealer
@ mr. roboto • 722 wood street

wednesday july 1st columbus, oh
w/ mose giganticus, emotron, painkiller, ginger fetus
@ Legion of Doom • 1579 indianola avenue

thursday july 2nd chicago
w/ heart-shaped hate
@ mount happy

friday july 3rd, lousiville, ky
w/ lords and trophy wives
@ skull alley • 1017 E Broadway

saturday, july 4th chattanooga/nashville, tn
help?

sunday, july 5th chapel hill, nc
w/ invisible
@ local 506 • 506 W Franklin St

2009-05-27T17:19:00.002-04:00

hello summer!

May 31
International Datelines
Daniel James Gang
Nordic Waste
Trophy Wife
7pm • $5
Girl Cave • 1419 Gallatin ST NW • wdc

2009-05-04T11:49:00.002-04:00

Check out this video about Youth Pride 2009 from the Washington Blade.

Hot but fun day that i know katy and i were really happy to be a part of.

fun pic

2009-04-20T13:45:00.002-04:00

We're playing this weekend on Saturday at Youth Pride Day in DC. I think we play at 2pm at P street Beach, three blocks west of Dupont Circle.

2009-04-09T11:38:00.006-04:00

a tape

2009-03-16T18:52:00.002-04:00

katy and i recorded a little tape and she has put it out on her label, exotic fever.

check it HERE.

note: big business- "gold and final" omg

austin? austin!

2009-03-16T16:01:00.001-04:00

Thursday March 19

Exotic Fever presents

Thank God (South Carolina)
Pygmylush (Sterling, VA)
Turboslut (Washington, DC)
Resin Hits (Portland, OR)
Trophy Wife (Washington, DC)
Snacktruck (VA)
Polaroppositebear (Wichita, KS)
Thou (Baton Rouge, LA)

Music Gym
815 East 6th St.
noon-6pm • free

Mini Tour

2009-03-03T13:45:00.008-05:00

Katy and I are playing a couple shows out of town this weekend but are starting with a show in DC at the Girl Cave!

Thursday March 5
Curtains of Night
Amateur Party
Trophy Wife
Tiny Bombs
at the Girl Cave, 8pm
1419 Gallatin Street NW, DC

Friday March 6
Curtains of Night
Trophy Wife
Stink Eyes
at Rumors, 9pm
Richmond, VA

Saturday March 7
Curtains of Night
Ruscha
Trophy Wife
at the Reservoir, 10pm
Carrboro, NC

HI!

2009-02-23T10:55:00.000-05:00

So, we just played two piece fest in Philly, organized by Craig of Be Happy Records. It ruled. Slingshot Dakota cover of "Waiting Room"! For realz?

Tomorrow katy and i are playing a benefit at the Black Cat Backstage for Join the Impact, an organization working to repeal Prop 8, which basically eliminated gay marriage in California and could also lead to the annulment of 18,000 gay marriages in the state.

We're playing with Noon:30 and the Mirror Script, also both local DC bands!

Tuesday, February 24th • 9PM
Benefit for Join the Impact: Repeal of CA Prop 8.
noon:30
the mirror script
trophy wife
black cat
1811 14th St nw • DC

Upcoming Shows

2009-01-07T12:15:00.000-05:00

Sunday, February 22nd
TWO-PIECE FEST 2 !
**22 bands**
Pilam
3914 Spruce St • Philly
2pm

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Tuesday, February 24th
Benefit for Join the Impact: Repeal of CA Prop 8.
noon:30
the mirror script
trophy wife
black cat
1811 14th St nw • DC

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aannndd in March, we'll be playing some shows with Curtains of Night from NC in DC, Richmond and Carrboro. omg listen to this band.

some TW pictures!

2008-12-26T11:11:00.001-05:00

11.14 tree swing - riverdale, md

11.30 fuck yeah house - philly

11.30 fuck yeah house - philly

thanks to our friends who took these at various shows in the last couple of months!

Thanks

2008-12-03T09:25:00.000-05:00

So, Katy and I had an awesome time in NYC and Philly this weekend. We are really excited to have played our first out of town shows and are super grateful to the folks who helped us set it up.

I'm leaving for France for a couple of weeks to visit my family but we'll be playing in DC on December 27th location TBA as well as at an anti-prop 8 festival in january or february.

Welp thats about it.

to lookin fine in 09,

df

ps our email is trophywifetheband (at) gmail.com

Philly show Update

2008-11-17T12:49:00.000-05:00

Yay! We will be playing a show in Philly on Sunday November 30th. It will be a house show with dear friends Ashley and Amina in their new duo along with other Philly bands.

Sunday November 30
Trophy Wife
Bandname (Members of US Funk Team and Towers)
Le Petit Champignon
Andrew Keller (of Hermit Thrushes)
@ The Fuck Yeah! House
1523 Cherry St / Philadelphia, PA 19102
6pm

Also that weekend- shows in New York:

Friday, November 28th
Chris Enriquez's Bday Party
with Aloke and The Brass (ex on the might of princes)
doors at 730pm / 21+ / $7
168 Delancey Street / nyc 10002

Saturday, November 29th
Keep Saving the Loft Show
with Each Other's Mothers, Bloody for Me and Taigaa!
8pm / all ages / $5-10 sliding scale
1087 broadway, 2nd floor / brooklyn 11221
More info here

November 14th House Show!

2008-10-31T10:32:00.000-04:00

Friday November 14th at the Treeswing
all are welcome!
6107 43rd st
riverdale, md 20737

Ingrid
Curtains of Night
Trophy Wife
Caltrop

7pm SHARP $5 all ages
near PG Plaza metro stop

November Trophy Wife Tour!

2008-10-30T15:52:00.000-04:00

Trophy Wife is going to play our first out of town shows!

November 28th, Fri - NYC
Chris Enriquez's Bday Party
with Aloke and The Brass (ex on the might of princes)
doors at 730pm / 21+ / $7
168 Delancey Street NYC 10002

November 29th, Sat - NYC -LOFT PARTY
Info here
$5-10 sliding scale

November 30th, Sun - PHILLY TBA

ANYTHANG BUT MCCAIN SHOW Oct 28th!

2008-10-10T16:44:00.000-04:00

Tues Oct 28th Velvet Lounge in DC 915 U Street, NW DC

GODISHEUS
Noon:30
Trophy Wife

anythang but mccain show and rally!!!

partial benefit for empower dc
$10

Ten Year Anniversary Show Added Oct 15

2008-09-17T11:14:00.001-04:00

Trophy Wife is honored to play the Tenth Anniversary of Mothertongue, DC's spoken word organization for women and girls.

www.mothertonguedc.org

Oct 15 Wed Mainstage at the Black Cat in Washington, DC
www.blackcatdc.com
MOTHERTONGUE OPEN MIC FEATURING:

KAREN TAGGART AND RUTH DICKEY, MOTHERTONGUE CO-FOUNDERS, MOTHERTONGUE COLLECTIVE MEMBERS, A SPLASH OF NEW VOICES AND SPECIAL GUEST ryka aoki de la cruz (LA TRANSGENDERED PERFORMANCE POET/ACTIVIST)

(POETRY 50-60 MINUTES)
PPOX 50 MINUTES)
The Coat Hanger Project (2008) directed by MOTHERTONGUE ALUMNA Angie Young, is about abortion and the current state of the pro-choice and reproductive justice movements 35 years after Roe vs. Wade. Since the passage of Roe vs. Wade in 1973, anti-choice forces have been making it their mission to dismantle women's reproductive freedom. They came together, brilliantly strategized, pooled their resources, and slowly but steadily they have been implementing their attack. Their weapons: money, the legal system, the government, the media, the church, and - this is the scariest of all - you.

(20 minutes: screen and DVD needed)

NANCY EDDY -- PHASEFEST'S FAVORITE LOCAL MUSICIAN, WWW.MYSPACE.COM/NANCYEDDYMUSIC
15 MINUTES

AND THE FABULOUS PINK ROCK OF

TROPHY WIFE -- 25 MINS

Upcoming Trophy Wife Show Oct 30

2008-09-11T10:53:00.000-04:00

thurs oct 30 7pm $5
at the girl cave
1419 gallatin st nw

the well (last show ever - dc/rva ragin, contemplative postpunk)
gods & queens (ex lickgoldensky, by and for the elderly/crybabies, robotic empire)
trophy wife (us)

First TROPHY WIFE shows.

2008-08-18T16:47:00.000-04:00

hi there.

we are playing our first couple of shows. here are the details:

August 28th, Thursday 9pm at the Black Cat in Washington, DC www.blackcatdc.com
$8
Bellafea (NC)
The Shondes (NYC)
Trophy Wife (DC)

September 10th, Wednesday at Phase Fest in Washington, DC
with Turboslut and Each Other's Mothers

TW is KO and DF.